When you’re feeling down, having a positive view of yourself can be challenging. You may be your worst critic, constantly putting yourself down and never giving yourself a break. It is where self-compassion comes in. Indulging and supporting yourself is just as (or more) important than providing it to others. However, you are probably more used to criticizing yourself for your mistakes than showing self-compassion.
Self-soothing behavior is a psychological strategy to provide reassurance, emotional relief, and hope. It can help you feel better at the moment and give you the strength to move on. Here are some self-soothing techniques you can try:
1. Accept your uncomfortable emotions.
Don’t try to push them away. Please acknowledge that you’re feeling pain, sadness, anger, or whatever else you think. Let yourself feel the emotions, and then let them go.
It’s never OK to tell yourself things like, “It’s nothing; I only feel stupid,” or “I’m so irritated with myself for being this way.” It would help if you accepted how you were feeling.
2. Self-compassion and kindness to oneself are potent tools.
Beating yourself up will only make you feel worse. Instead, try to be understanding and forgiving with yourself. Everyone makes mistakes, and you’re only human. Allow yourself some grace and show yourself the compassion you would show others.
What methods or strategies may you employ to foster such self-compassion? Here are a few basic case studies:
- Give yourself some time to relax and do something you enjoy.
- Don’t put a label on what you’re experiencing.
- Don’t compare yourself to what’s on the inside.
- Accept yourself for who you are in this moment, emotions included.
- Taking time to relax and de-stress through techniques like yoga or meditation can help you positively feel more connected to yourself.
3. Develop less self-criticism and more self-compassion.
It may take some time, but it’s worth it. Start by catching yourself when you’re being critical. Once you’re aware of your thoughts, try to reframe them in a more positive light. For example, instead of thinking, “I can’t believe I made that mistake,” try, “Everyone makes mistakes, and I’m learning from mine.”
4. Shelters where you can let off steam and clear your head.
When you’re feeling overwhelmed, it can be helpful to have a space to yourself where you can relax and de-stress. It could be your bedroom, a quiet home spot, or even a walk around the block. Give yourself some time and space to calm down and regroup.
5. Accept that your pain is only temporary.
It doesn’t mean your problems are insignificant, but it does mean that they’re not permanent. Please acknowledge that you’re having a tough time, but remind yourself that it won’t last forever. Focus on the present moment and what you can do to make yourself feel better.
Self-compassion is a vital skill to have, and it’s one that you can learn. By using these techniques, you can start to show yourself the same kindness and understanding that you would show others. Give yourself a break and be gentle with yourself – you deserve it.
Do you have any other tips for practicing self-compassion?
